http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ Single Mom Forum for Single Moms en Sat, 25 May 2013 11:52:42 +0000 http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=353#post-2058 Tue, 14 Sep 2010 23:47:22 +0000 happysinglemom 2058@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>SL, it sounds like you truely love this wonderful woman, but if things didn't work out for you guys then you have to learn to let go and wish her the best. I know it's easier said than done, but you will let go someday, slowly but surely. It's so heartbreaking when things don't turn out the way we had hoped and it's hard to get back on that horse, but it will get better. I PROMISE. </p> <p>You have to be strong and remember that when one door closes another one opens and your future will be better and happier, whether she's in it or not, life goes on. </p> <p>If I were you, I would not communicate with her just yet. You need "alone" time to start healing and getting used to the fact that they are not in your life anymore.</p> <p>Life is rough, we don't always get what we want, but we HAVE TO move on...XOXO</p> <p>Wishing you the best ♥ </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=353#post-2055 Sun, 12 Sep 2010 23:48:05 +0000 SL 2055@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Here is the story of my relationship with an incredible single mom!</p> <p>I began dating a single mom in the spring of this year (2010) after many years of being single. I was always unwilling to settle which meant that I spent much more time alone than in relationships. I had no experience dating single moms, nor do I have children of my own, and to be completely honest, I was unsure of what to expect. After our first few dates, it was very clear to me that this was a woman that I really wanted to know. She was strong, independent, funny, and an incredibly beautiful woman. I began searching on the internet for something that could help me understand single moms, and help prepare me for what to expect. As fate would have it, I ran into this blog and was captivated by how freely MsSingleMama shared her experiences with her readers. I was hooked! You all provided me with such insights that helped me better understand the heart and mind of a single mom.</p> <p>Our relationship grew quickly and I fell in love with the most amazing woman I had ever met! We were complete opposites on many superficial things, but we truly complimented each other well on a deeper level! I clearly remember the time when we shared our first "I love you"! As I spent time with CF and with her son, I quickly grew to love him very much. CF and I often spoke of a future together. One where we could create new happy memories for the rest of our lives.</p> <p>Then, almost as quickly as it started, it all began to unravel. As you've probably guessed, the relationship ended recently. We've decided to remain friends but the pain that I am feeling is overwhelming! I am torn by feelings of guilt ,not knowing if I caused this to happen, pain for having lost the one person that made me believe that love could be possible again, and most of all, I am scared. I am scared of seeing her find another man, I am scared of never finding love again, and I am afraid of the future...my future. I want her to be happy, but the anguish I feel about that conversation we may have in the near future...that one where she tells me that she has found someone new, and that person isn't me, is the scariest thought I have.</p> <p>My friends and family all tell me to move on, that I am better off, but those are all empty words. I fell in love with a woman and her son who mean the world to me! And now, that dream has been replaced by a sense of loss that cannot be described. I told CF that my life is better off with her in it than without, even if this means we are nothing more than friends. My brain tells me that the pain will eventually subside, that life will go on, that one day, I will stop dreaming of her. My heart tells me otherwise.</p> <p>I close with one final thought, in the hope that, as she sometimes visits the blog, she'll one day read this post. That she'll remember the times we shared. That she'll know that love is possible again, even when you've been hurt before. That it's ok to learn to let go. That leaning on someone in time of need does not mean you will lose the amazing woman you are. That I'm not going anywhere, that I'm forever here for her. That she'll always have a shoulder to cry on, a hand to help if she needs help, an ear to listen if something is troubling her, and arms to hold her tight and tell her that everything's going to be alright. But most of all, that I'll always want her to be happy!!</p> <p>I love you CF! You made me believe in love again.</p> <p>SL </p>