http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ Single Mom Forum for Single Moms en Tue, 21 May 2013 13:15:25 +0000 http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=1903#post-4313 Tue, 08 May 2012 13:34:36 +0000 brilliant 4313@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Our company has just launched ChildrenTV application for iPad. There are hundreds of safe sorted cartoons. You can enjoy videos in 10 languages and filter only the once of you interest. So your kids will have fun and study new languages by simply watching cute kids videos. Filter by age category is also available. Check out the application here <a href="http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/childrentv/id491518606?ls=1&amp;mt=8" rel="nofollow">http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/childrentv/id491518606?ls=1&amp;mt=8</a> </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2755 Mon, 14 Nov 2011 05:53:04 +0000 sm29 2755@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>i have a suggestion... i am a father of a child who lives with her mother and is making things very, very difficult for me to even be any part of the child's life. my baby girl is only 15 months old, but the mother is already telling me that she's going to do exactly what you did. she's going to tell her that i don't care about her, that i'm a terrible person, etc. sad thing is, she's 29 and should be more mature than this and she's already lost her first son to her other ex for being a crazy spiteful... you know what. even with the huge amount of hate that i feel for her, i would never in my wildest dreams tell my daughter anything bad about her mom, even if they WERE true. if she ever asked me about her mom, i'd bite my tongue and simply say, "your mother loves you very much," and that would be the extent of it. </p> <p>so here's my suggestion. maybe you can help me with this situation. maybe that will make you feel better about the wrong that you've done. maybe it will even send a little bit of positive karma your way. i'm at a loss as to what to do and maybe you can tell me what the best thing to do would be? maybe you could even help me and talk some sense into the child's mother? she may just be plain crazy and i may have to wind up just proving that in court so i can take my daughter, but maybe she can be reasoned with. i don't know. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2747 Thu, 10 Nov 2011 11:53:14 +0000 nstanh 2747@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>I read this and felt physically sick. How dare you do this to your innocent child and then complain about your consequences. </p> <p>You have performed emotional abuse on your son, if he forgives you, then I would suggest you will be extremely lucky. The only advice I can give is apologise, and make him aware that you will be available if you want to talk. I can only imagine the pain and anguish this poor child has gone through, yet you seem to have your own feelings as a priority still. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=569#post-2710 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 22:59:52 +0000 EandEsmommy 2710@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Have you tried having your attorney file a contempt of court? Depending upon the judge the 1st offense he might just get a warning but if it is the 2nd, or 3rd offense he should/will get jail time. I'm in the process of doing this with my ex. My attorney is filing the paperwork if he does not pay me but of course this is costing me a pretty penny. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=569#post-2700 Wed, 05 Oct 2011 14:34:08 +0000 Singlemom 2700@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>My sons father owes over 11,000 in back child support and has been off and on jobs. I asked the state I live in as well as the state he lives in why he has not been arrested or his license suspended and they say that they give them 60 days to find a job and if they do not find a job within 60 days they give them an additional 30 and somehow he always finds a job for about 3-4 months. I received 40 bucks a month when he was on unemployment! I blame the states for letting theses deadbeats get away. My son's father bought a new car and goes to clubs like crazy (from what i use to hear). I don't even recieve his taxes and I'm still trying to figure that one out. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=569#post-2667 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 22:48:39 +0000 krisshy 2667@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>I was wondering if it has ever happened to anyone? Even more specifically, Missouri? Or just anywhere? My daughter's deadbeat father has an under the table job to avoid paying support. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2644 Wed, 14 Sep 2011 12:32:53 +0000 amygwen 2644@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Thanks Roxx. It hasnt been easy but i think in time it can be sorted out. I should have done it years ago though. I might have had problems with the father, but he is still the father </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2636 Tue, 13 Sep 2011 01:45:38 +0000 roxx2 2636@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>You can't change what is in the past or the pain you caused to them both. But you can be better than that now. Apologize profusely to them both. Put yourself at their mercy! Allow them to be mad at you, even hate you...but don't ever stop loving your son and showing him that you love him. Tell him every day that you love him and your sorry. Don't try to make him come back though....give him time to heal and forgive and come back to you when he is ready. He will one day if you don't give up. You both still have many years ahead of you to heal, even if he is an adult before it happens....it will be worth it no matter how long it takes. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2611 Mon, 05 Sep 2011 18:00:16 +0000 amygwen 2611@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Im in uk. What am i meant to do, keep my son here even though he hates me? Force him to stay here? Just because its lawful doesnt make it right, the law backed me up with my lies for years. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2608 Sun, 04 Sep 2011 18:25:03 +0000 AK-10 2608@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Well, If you live in the US then what you did was against the law. Saying awful things about the kids father in front of him can be considered child abuse. </p> <p>I have been a single mom for 7.5 years now. I do not like my ex husband and I do not believe that he is the best father that he could be but I allow my daughter every op to see him. She is 11 yrs old now and she needs me now more then ever and I have worked hard on our relationship. I have on occasion made a bitter remark as I am not perfect but I am hoping my daughter will see all the sacrifices and decisions that I have made with her best interest in mind.</p> <p>I don't understand why in your case how your son could have just walked out the door without a court order. He is not 18 years old yet. This does not seem right to me. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2597 Fri, 02 Sep 2011 14:44:51 +0000 amygwen 2597@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Too many people just posting on the sex forum? </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=540#post-2595 Fri, 02 Sep 2011 00:44:07 +0000 amygwen 2595@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>I had my little boy when I was 20 and am now 35.<br /> To cut a long story short i was very bad to the father. I said bad things about him that weren't true and stopped him from seeing our boy. Last year when my boy was 14 years old the father turned up unexpectedly at our sons school and told him that he was his father, showed him court documents etc to prove that he had done nothing wrong.<br /> My child came home from school and said "i knew all along, im going to live with my dad" and he left. He has NOT spoke a word to me since and that's been nearly a year although it feels like 100 years.</p> <p>Will he ever forgive me? Should he ever forgive me for essentially 'kidnapping' him from his dad all those years? I hated the father for many years because of the break up etc. I was young and stupid and now I've lost everything. Will he come back one day?</p> <p>I wanted to make the fathers life a misery...I suceeded for 14 years and now my life is a living hell. And I deserve everything I get. Will he come back, i think I'm going crazy. I just don't know what to do. I have lost my child. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=252#post-2164 Wed, 22 Dec 2010 03:14:36 +0000 Cynthia007 2164@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Hello There,<br /> From an outsider's perspective, I understand where you are coming from and you can't help your feelings right. You can change your behaviour, but you can't help your feelings. They are stable. And if your ex did that to you in the past, the only reason I can see him acting this way towards the new woman in his life is either:<br /> A) Because he is trying to make up for the dead beat dad he was initially, or...<br /> B) It's the prescription drugs talking...<br /> But I wouldn't worry about your son, hunny. He knows you are his mother and he will always have his mother, and will always have one mother.<br /> Maybe try telling your son how you feel with regards to you working and how you would rather spend time with him, but in order for you to provide for him you need to work to make him happy- just to ease these fearful feelings.<br /> Good for you for working as hard as you have been. I know it's extremely difficult, being a single mother myself.<br /> And secondly, the only thing that I can see where it might cause some issues, as it's the same thing that has happened to many of us single mothers, is letting that ex back in and out of your life. It's playing it's toll on you, and sucking away at your emotional energy. I'm saying this from personal experience.<br /> Try to keep your distance from the a*&amp;hole, I'm sorry as I know it's your son's father. But sometimes, there's biological fathers and then there are the "spiritual" fathers. It's good that your son can develop some kind of relationship with him, but protect yourself.<br /> You are the head of the family unit- regarding your son and yourself. And to have a happy and healthy unit, you need to be happy.<br /> I wish you all the best, and it's going to be difficult. I'm going through the same thing with myself.<br /> Sincerest regards,<br /> Cynthia </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=252#post-1904 Sun, 23 May 2010 04:35:11 +0000 cuddlycutebaby 1904@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>in my opinion you must keep your child away from them.<br /> secondly the one who was never yours and left you and went away just stop thinking about him and start your life once again.</p> <p><a href="http://www.autismchildparenting.com">Dogs And Children With Autism</a> </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=252#post-1771 Thu, 28 Jan 2010 15:45:49 +0000 YoYo 1771@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>You will always be your sons mommy and he is not going to not love you regardless of anything. Even if he acts out and says negative things, he will still love you. Reagrding the rest of your situation, I simply recommend a lawyer. If he is planning a new life without you then maybe you should make sure he has made everything final and in writing about visitation and child support. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=252#post-1762 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 20:57:16 +0000 kristen 1762@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Yes, sounds like it is time for some custody/visitation decisions. You might be able to negotiate with him outside of court, but with lawyers. I hope that you don't need to go as far as court to have it settled. </p> <p>Honestly, I would start by finding a different caregiver than his mother. </p> <p>Is he still abusing prescription meds? If so, that should be grounds for limiting his access. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=252#post-1761 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 20:17:44 +0000 LO 2010 1761@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Fortunately, I have not been in that situation and pray that I won't ever be...but why are you putting up with it? If you don't like the way the visitations are then you do have the option to take him to court, re-negotiate the terms and maybe put him on every other weekends and the standard visitation for Father's. </p> <p>As for your son not wanting to spend time with you - no matter what you are his Mom and he loves you...you are not replaceable in that child's eyes. Your son knows how much you love him. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=252#post-1760 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:02:24 +0000 kmama 1760@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>I had my son at 17, he is going to be 5 soon. His dad &amp; I have been off and on since he was born. We've never been to court.<br /> I ended our relationship about 6 months ago because he is addicted to prescription medication and I was hoping he'd get his act together and we could possibly work things out, instead he begins talking to another girl and she is now 4 months pregnant with his child.<br /> She has been around our son more and more and now the ex is taking him to her doctors appointments. I'm just at a loss with what to do, i'm so hurt and frustrated that he does not care about my feelings at all.<br /> I know it I "have to put my personal feelings aside" but it is easier said then done. I'm so afraid of losing my son to their new family, that he won't want to come over to my house and spend time with me.<br /> I work Monday- Friday and during that time the ex's mom watches our son until I get off but on Thursday's and Friday's he spends the night there and I get to pick him up for an hour or so.<br /> I can't stand the fact that this girl is spending time with him while I have to work. The ex is even talking about marrying her and moving in with her (they've only known eachother 6 months)<br /> Anyone been in this type of situation? </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=251#post-1759 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:01:57 +0000 kmama 1759@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>I had my son at 17, he is going to be 5 soon. His dad &amp; I have been off and on since he was born. We've never been to court.<br /> I ended our relationship about 6 months ago because he is addicted to prescription medication and I was hoping he'd get his act together and we could possibly work things out, instead he begins talking to another girl and she is now 4 months pregnant with his child.<br /> She has been around our son more and more and now the ex is taking him to her doctors appointments. I'm just at a loss with what to do, i'm so hurt and frustrated that he does not care about my feelings at all.<br /> I know it I "have to put my personal feelings aside" but it is easier said then done. I'm so afraid of losing my son to their new family, that he won't want to come over to my house and spend time with me.<br /> I work Monday- Friday and during that time the ex's mom watches our son until I get off but on Thursday's and Friday's he spends the night there and I get to pick him up for an hour or so.<br /> I can't stand the fact that this girl is spending time with him while I have to work. The ex is even talking about marrying her and moving in with her (they've only known eachother 6 months)<br /> Anyone been in this type of situation? </p>