http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ Single Mom Forum for Single Moms en Thu, 20 Jun 2013 04:26:35 +0000 http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2540 Thu, 04 Aug 2011 14:10:16 +0000 pregserv 2540@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Hi! My classmates and I are conducting a study on post pregnancy for our summer Hunter College course. This ANONYMOUS survey will be used for data in our research only. Please take a minute to complete the survey! Thank You!<br /> <a href="https://spreadsheets.google.com/a/bths.edu/spreadsheet/viewform?formkey=dGU4b0M5Vk9vM284c0dnR3lmaUJrYVE6MQ" rel="nofollow">https://spreadsheets.google.com/a/bths.edu/spreadsheet/viewform?formkey=dGU4b0M5Vk9vM284c0dnR3lmaUJrYVE6MQ</a> </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2222 Sun, 30 Jan 2011 09:43:37 +0000 Tlingitgal 2222@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>HI ...hope all is well with you and baby. </p> <p>I love being a mother, I loved being a wife, a girlfriend. I always gave the best parts of myself. MISTAKE. Not in a negative way but what I learned through several tears, heartaches, and lonliness survival, is that to continue, one must always keep a part of themselve only for themselves, that most sacred aspect of your mind, your heart and spirit, always keep part of that just for you. WHY? It is what sustains you, brings you back to your centered part of your life, when you veer off. </p> <p>I say that because, as I sit here, alone, again after a failed relationship, am content. I see my three beautiful kids sleeping and loving on their mama, and I know that is because, I have been able to provide love to them regardless. I also know, I am loving who I am. </p> <p>If you haven't at this point in the juncture figured yourself out completely, do it soon. Because when you are able to completely be content in a relationship with yourself, can you be content with providing that to others. :O) Your gonna be wonderful..good luck to ya </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2125 Mon, 08 Nov 2010 19:18:24 +0000 singlemomli 2125@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>I'm happy to read that you decided to have the baby. At 23 weeks you should have known if it was a boy or a girl. That's exciting news! At this point in time you should have already had the baby. So, congrats!! I'm 34 and a first time single mom as well. My baby just turned one year and it has been hard but I wouldn't have it any other way! I'm just wanted to say that I am proud of you and that your inner strength will guide you thru this emotional time. Be confident in yourself as a mother and enjoy it because they grow soooo fast! </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2094 Fri, 08 Oct 2010 18:54:34 +0000 bigbird 2094@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>You will be amazed at the strength that comes from within once you have a baby. You will find a way for it to all come together - where there's a will there's a way! I married my baby daddy and finally divorced him after 4 years and 2 kids. I also got pregnant and I think he felt like he "had" to marry me - and I went along because I didn't want to be alone. Wow-big mistake. Your husband/baby daddy should be supportive, loving and caring - to you and your baby. No one should ever settle for less. I took the hard road - I wouldn't trade it because I wouldn't have both my kids - but stay strong, think forward, and believe in yourself. You are not the only one out there going through this and won't be the last one! Remember how many of us our out here for support! Having a baby is incredible - it will work out :) </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2093 Fri, 08 Oct 2010 15:29:57 +0000 MommaTurtle 2093@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>It is sad and once you have your baby there will be moments where you almost want to call the father and say "are you suuuure you don't want to be involved" just because your child will grow up and ask questions. MY advice is don't ever do that. You will find that you are strong enough to care for the child on your own and you will have a fierce protective nature. In other words, you will not want him or her spending time with anyone who doesn't really want and enjoy time spent with your child. I know, because I have a three year old son who has started asking questions. I have heard from his biological father since he signed his rights away to my son right after he was born (having never even seen him at all). My son and I are just fine now! We have a lot of love and laughter in our lives and he just makes my world! He asks questions sometimes like "Momma can we go find me a Daddy today" and yes that hurts my heart but I answer with "Well, not today baby but we'll pray about that tonight" to which he responds with "Ok momma can we go get a happy meal today" Lol Kids are tougher than we give them credit for sometimes. Good luck and look at the bright side of things! </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2091 Wed, 06 Oct 2010 16:23:49 +0000 chicagored 2091@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Just an update on my situation.. I decided to continue with the pregnancy.. and I'm now at 23 weeks. So far my ex is still MIA and the latest I've heard from his is that he doesn't want to be involved. That makes me sad, but I guess there isn't anything I can do about it. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2081 Tue, 28 Sep 2010 08:29:33 +0000 davidhauge01 2081@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Hey,<br /> That's a very bad situation to any women and I feel sorry for your situation,<br /> It is very bad for a women.<br /> This is a crime but women are allow it.</p> <p><a href="http://crystaljadepsychics.com">Crystal Jade Psychics</a> </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2068 Mon, 20 Sep 2010 10:35:51 +0000 Michaelbrwn66 2068@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Yours is a perfect example of why all women should be confident enough to handle single motherhood if the need arises. All single mothers should make themselves financially stable. Many single mothers who have children may believe that they are no longer able to attend a college to get a degree because of their new financial burdens, but there are many colleges who have grants that just for single mothers.<br /> <a href="http://singlemothersafterbreakup.co.uk/"><a href="http://singlemothersafterbreakup.co.uk/" rel="nofollow">http://singlemothersafterbreakup.co.uk/</a> </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2040 Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:02:23 +0000 MADISON 2040@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Hi Chicagored,</p> <p>I'm in a very similiar situation as yourself. I was with my boyfriend for 14-months when I found out I was pregnant. It was a surprise (though I'm getting the blame from him because I should have looked after the birth control better).</p> <p>I thought the relationship was good but guess it wasn't. He wanted me to abort and said that if we are still together in 6-months to a year we can have another child. Then we'll know our relationship is stable he says. Yeah right! </p> <p>I went back and forth for a while but decided my final decision was to have the baby (due March 2011) and kick him out of my life. It was really hard. I just turned 34 and this will be my first child. I never could have dreamed in a million years my life would turn out like this. But it has and I've started accepting things....though its been hard.</p> <p>I worry about dating too, but I'm more hoping the baby might get rid of the bad ones right off the bat. Besides, the baby will always be there for me where men have proven not to be.</p> <p>All that being said.......if he loved you he wouldn't make you abort your baby. He would accept responsibility. I worry you may regret more not having this baby than regret being single for a little while. So just base your decision on what you feel you want and not what he wants.....because you can't guarantee he'll be there for you once you do it.</p> <p>Good luck!!!! </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-2001 Sat, 17 Jul 2010 21:45:30 +0000 rachelpartdeux 2001@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Note- I am not un-biased on the subject, but your partner was just as responsible for creating this baby and to expect you to choose between them now is just wrong!Despite his reservations he should be supporting whatever choice you make because he is not blameless and that's what unconditional love is all about! </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-1999 Fri, 16 Jul 2010 17:53:00 +0000 MommaTurtle 1999@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>All I can say is... it takes a very selfless woman to be a mother... </p> <p>For me, once pregnant there is no option that doesn't include birthing a child at the end of that pregnancy. But as an fyi, there are many nursing jobs that do NOT require swing shifts and you have the option of 3p-11p, 11p-7a, or 7a-3a. I know because I have a family full of nurses (My mom, sister, etc) and nursing homes which are always in need of good nurses regardless of experience have 3 shifts to choose from. In fact, my mom and sister both started out in nursing homes. Nursing is good money and single parenting is NOT easy but there is nothing in this world more rewarding at the end of the day for all your sacrifices than the love of your child. Also, Do you think single moms dream of being in a relationship with a man that would demand they end their pregnancy? You deserve better. Food for thought. Good luck to you whatever you may decide. </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=324#post-1998 Fri, 16 Jul 2010 15:30:08 +0000 chicagored 1998@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Hi, </p> <p>I'm new to the forum an wanted to get some advice from other single moms out there. I had been with my partner for a little over a year and a half. Our plan was to hopefully have a child together at some point when our relationship was stronger and finances better (partner's finances are a total wreck. Our relationship had been rocky this spring, but it seemed like we were sort of working things out and things were getting better.. until I found out about the pregnancy. My partner is very against the pregnancy and said that he just can't deal with working on our relationship and the strain that a new child brings into a relationship (from his former marriage he has a 9 year-old son). </p> <p>Anyway, my partner and his son moved out 2 weeks ago and will not be returning unless I choose to not have this baby. I understand why my partner or ex (not sure what to all him anymore) doesn't want another child. It's the worst possible time for another child given so many things in both of our lives.</p> <p>For myself, I've wanted to be a mother for a very long time. I'll be 33 in a couple of weeks and fear that this could be my last shot. I'm supposed to start nursing school for a total career change next May and I'm terrified that I,ll have to abandon my nursing career and dreams if I have this baby. Nursing is one of the most unfamily friendly professions, especially if you're a single parent. At the start of a nursing career you usually have zero choice when it comes to shifts, and they often rotate. Without consistent support or a lot of money, I don't know how I can do it. I would never be able to afford overnight babysitters 3x a week and also pay for daycare in the day so I could sleep.</p> <p>In the relationship and dating subforums of this single mom forum, I hear single moms lamenting about loneliness and how they want to make memories with not just their wonderful sons or daughters, but with a loving partner. I want to share my life with a partner or husband as much as I want to be a parent. I worry about losing the partner that I have if I have this baby. I also worry about not being able to meet another man with whom I could share my life due to being a single mom.</p> <p>Do any of you have any advice for me? How hard is it to meet that future partner as a single mom if you do not have any support from your child's father and very little free time to even date.</p> <p>I want this baby, but I'm afraid of sacrificing many of my dreams and hopes at the same time. </p>