http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ Single Mom Forum for Single Moms en Fri, 24 May 2013 11:58:25 +0000 http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=352#post-2061 Wed, 15 Sep 2010 18:30:25 +0000 ahmama 2061@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <br /> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=352#post-2060 Wed, 15 Sep 2010 18:28:45 +0000 ahmama 2060@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <br /> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=352#post-2059 Wed, 15 Sep 2010 18:27:53 +0000 ahmama 2059@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>So I sent him an email, basically like you said and making sure I didn't leave things in an awkward place. Anyway he replied that he is just "too busy for anything right now" and that he didn't mean to lead me on but that's what the "drunken" him does. Great excuse. I'm planning to send him a final email to make sure he knows to put a tighter reign on the "drunken" him so it doesn't get the "real" him in trouble. As I said I know this guy and his family well, he wasn't raised this way. I'm not sure what his game is but I think if he'd be himself he'd find I'm a great match. Anyway there's been more drama between myself and my ex which I'm about to post (probably under another thread). And it's not like I'm ready for a relationship at this point. I could use a break from the drama for a while. Thanks for your help/support happysinglemom! I think this whole experience will only make me stronger! </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=352#post-2056 Tue, 14 Sep 2010 22:44:09 +0000 happysinglemom 2056@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>Wow! It sucks to have put yourself out there and you get a bad result, sorry to hear that... If I were you, I'd send him one last email stating that you just want to clarify any misunderstandings and that you understand that he's very busy, therefore wish him good luck and say something like "maybe I'll see you around some day". Since you said you've known each other for many years, I think you should take this approach otherwise he deserves an earful as to why is he being a jerk and so on and so forth... </p> <p>I'd like to hear back from you after you do whatever you decide, now I'm curious to see if this jerk (in my eyes) has a good reason/excuse for treating you the way he did. </p> <p>Bottom line, you don't need those kind of games in your life and you deserve a whole lot better. </p> <p>And remember you already put up with too much crap from your ex, you DON'T need any more drama in your life.</p> <p>BE STRONG!!!! :)</p> <p>Best of luck,<br /> XOXO </p> http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/topic.php?id=352#post-2052 Sat, 11 Sep 2010 03:36:56 +0000 ahmama 2052@http://www.mssinglemama.com/single-moms/ <p>So I'm a new single mama (already read the Ms. Single Mama book) so I know I should avoid dating for the first year. However, I had an experience as I "tested the waters" a couple of weeks ago that has left me confused. I went to my class reunion and ran into and old guy friend who upon finding out I was newly single proceeded to pursue me the rest of the night. Long story short he followed me around like a puppy all night and there were a couple of makeout sessions, nothing beyond kissing, he was a total gentleman. But he did tell me he wanted to take me out on a date. So we talked by email the rest of the week only to find out our schedules aren't much of a match (he works late during the week, I work weekends) but after a week we worked out a date, although he tried to say he had too much to do at home and wanted to reschedule. We went to the movies and to dinner, he was cordial but was definitely not the same guy at the reunion. He didn't act like he wanted to be there at all, I felt like I was taking up his valuable time. Not once did he even touch me. He knows about my two year old daughter (we're old friends) and nothing about me has changed since we first reconnected but now he won't even email me. I sent him an email thanking him for the evening but he hasn't responded. I feel like something changed but I don't know what. I'm really more crushed that this has happened so soon after my divorce and that I allowed myself to be hurt, but he was so convincing at the class reunion that he wanted to pursue a relationship with me. Obviously I'm feeling rather vulnerable and now see why I need to avoid dating for a while but I also feel like I put my life on hold for my ex for four years (while he went out and did who knows what) and now I want it to be my time. It's bad enough that I feel guilty for even going out and leaving my daughter with a babysitter (Lord knows my ex never felt bad about leaving me at home with the baby while he went out cheating on me) but I'm really hurt by this situation. My self confidence has soared since kicking out my ex but this situation has left me feeling very down in the dumps. I've written another email to send this guy to apologize if I said or did anything to offend him, haven't sent it yet, because I've emailed him and basically been the one pursuing the lone date we went on for an entire week, that I feel like I'm bothering him. I don't know if I should attempt one more contact with him (by email) mostly just to clear the air of any misunderstanding or if I should just let all this go. We've known each other so long that I hate to leave things in an awkward state but I don't want to annoy him either. I just don't understand what has changed and feel very rusty in the dating department all of the sudden. I need help with this! </p>