Do you cuss in front of your kids. I try to watch my mouth, but more often then not end up cussing in front of my son. He is old enough now that I can tell him that when he is grown up, or not around adults, he can cuss. I am just being realistic, I am well aware of the fact that he will cuss with the other kids. I had a hard time when he was little and repeating everything, so I watched my mouth. My mom keeps saying it's not good for him to hear me cuss. I don't know that I believe that. What do you other single mama's do? Watch your mouth or not?
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Language in front of the kids
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Posted 3 years ago #
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kristen
MemberI don't swear in front of my son at all. And I get angry with people who do. He will repeat what he hears and I don't want him using bad language.
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I guess that I should add, I rarely if ever cuss in front of someone else's kids. I don't always know if they cuss and don't want to be the one to introduce them to it. I have occasionally cussed in front of my sister's kids but they have already heard it.
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oliviasmom
MemberI definitely watch my language in front of my daughter, and yes Kristen, I also get upset when people swear around her.
Regardless of whether or not she's heard the words, I try to teach her other, more appropriate language, rather than using swear words in front of her, but telling her not to say them.
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mom23inmd
MemberI never use swear words in front of my kids (now, behind their backs, or in my head when I'm talking to their dad, is a completely different story!). I just don't think it's appropriate for kids to use that language, and I know that kids model themselves after what they hear at home.
When my son went to kindergarten, I sat him down and made a list for him of all the swear words and what they meant. I knew he would hear it in school, and I wanted to be the one to explain it to him. But I told him that people will judge him based on the language he uses, and if he wanted adults to respect him, he shouldn't use swear words. Then I told him it was his choice. He is now going into third grade, and I know some of his friends use swear words, but he truthfully does not.
I know it's hard to watch your language in front of your kids, but really, if you expect him to be able to control his use of those words, then why wouldn't you hold yourself to the same standard?
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kristen
MemberGood technique mom23inmd!
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angellove
Memberat mom23inmd. wow, i would really keep that in mind, so i can use it when my baby grow old. i do believe, that good values and education starts at home. thanks. and hi to all moms here.
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My son is approaching 8 months old and my thinking on this has already started evolving. Earlier I thought that I wouldn't curse at all. But when I'm having adult conversations, sometimes I like to throw in a descriptive sh$% or a funny fu&# every now and then. I've always had excellent control of my cursing, so I've cut out all angry cussing and don't allow vulgar cursing.
Stubbing my toe now yields a "sugar plum" and drivers who cut me off are told to "go play with a monkey." I figure that I can't hide these words from him and I'd rather him hear them in a non-angry context so that I can explain "adult" usage a bit more easily to him... but who the humbug knows! My mom curses like a drunken sailor and I don't want him to correct or disparage his grandmother... I guess I'm just going to play it a bit by ear and not worry too much about it. In the grand scheme of things I'm going to need to worry about (and there are so many), this one falls pretty low on my list.
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Kidlets indeed model where they come from. Try and keep that in mind and you'll know the answer to that.
I was at the lake this summer and a kid my son's age was using words I'd barely heard of as an adult! In a kind way, I actually interjected because what he was saying was offending ME, nevermind not wanting my own kid to hear it.
"Did you know that lots of guys are careful about the language they use around girls? It's simply respecting them.'
He listened, we talked back and forth and it was if a small lightbulb went on. I don't even think he felt what he was doing was innapropriate. I later heard them playing further down the beach and his sister said, "Remember what that lady said? No swearing around girls! She's right!"
LOL Hey, I can't control what goes on around them in their own homes, but the very least I can do is attempt to control what goes on around me with an effort to teach.
Good values, morals, etc all play a part in who our kids become.
Donna
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cuddlycutebaby
Memberabsolutely it happens with me often.
whenever i am very sick of something i cuss but hate it if my son copies my words.
most of the things i have changed.
a little rectification is still needed.Posted 3 years ago #
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