Writing my eBook brought me back to the early days, months and years of dating as a single mama.
I know it's hard, so hard.
Sometimes it just feels like it's not even worth the effort - if it does feel that way - take a break. Seriously. Just take a breather. You can always pick back up right where you left off.
Just wanted to send you all hugs if you're navigating the big, bad dating world.
Anyone want to vent or offer advice - go right ahead.
kristen
Member
I would love to find that special someone - especially since I haven't been married before. I want my shot at it.
Problem is that I have never been a "dater." I have always found boyfriends through school or work.
I did join meetup.com at your suggest though. But have yet to find anything to attend where the is the potential to meet someone. It has only been a week...
Yvonne
Member
Oh...dating is hard. I'm a hopless romantic so I'll never lose hope, but there are times when I do question if Mr.Right is out there. I've been trying online dating on and off and it seems like I've already have gone out with all the ones that had potential...lol.
So, as of right now....I'm going out with a "Mr. Good Enough". He is very cute (think Anderson Cooper) and he is really nice...BUT...the red flag is I believe he has a commitment phobia. No big deal...I can't say I see a future with him. I do, however enjoy his company. We're actually going away this weekend to a B&B and taking tours of wineries in the Hill Country. My mom and my sis will be taking care of the kids. This will be my first time without my kids in years!!! I've only been away from them for about six hours at the most...I feel guilty but I really need and deserve a break. I'm excited but I do wish I was going with "Mr.Right"...but for right now..."Mr. Good Enough" will just have to do.
arscuore
Member
Wish I could even find a "Good Enough" or "Mr. Right Now"... Just canceled my Match.com subscription. Disappointed and don't have time.
Yvonne
Member
After this weekend, I came to the realization that being with a "Mr.Good Enough" is Not good enough....I want more. I want romance,love and true friendship. Something REAL. At the end of this weekend I'm a little sadder...a little lonlier. It was fun and he was nice, but it was very evident that it was just going to be a weekend away...nothing more.
Did I have hopes that after spending time together we would fall deeply in love...yeah I guess I did. But I think it was clear to both of us that we are not meant to be. So, I give up. I give up. I think I need to grow up and face the fact that I may be single for a long time. I don't want to settle and I certainly don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one....but I do want to be in love. I want so badly to be in love...is that pathetic?!
I won't lose my hope...it will happen. And when it does I will treasure it. In the meantime, I'm done with dating. I give up. The disappointment is too great. So, I'm back on my break....
Precious68
Member
I feel for you Yvonne... I am in the same predicament too... but only difference is I have not been dating as in real date with any guys after the divorce last Christmas.. Technically I have 'online dates' which all turns out to be mostly are crabs.. there are good ones but married..the ones that is single is too busy and left me message TTYL.. (talk to you later) what ever... My case is worst I know but like you I am hopelessly romantic I crave for intimacy, passionate love making and romance with that someone special.. simply I had never experience those even when I was married..so I want to give it a go! I am not ashamed to admit I am in the stage of finding my self esteem syndrome... Is that bad or what?
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