I am a single mother of a 5 year old boy whom just recently got diagnosed with combined ADHD and Asberger's syndrome. His father and I were married but divorced and even though I had taken care of the household and our son by myself because he was never present, I agreed to 50%/50% custody to give his father a fair chance in proving himself a caring father even though my ex and his parents had filed a restraining order against me on behalf of my son and had him taken away until the court hearing to get it settled. The judge dropped the order because my ex husband had no supporting documentation and told the judge that I'm a great mother and that I have always taken care of our son. The judge asked if there was a divorce in place and I told her that I was filling out the paperwork. I received nothing in the divorce and was okay with that except I let half of my time with my son go to his father. His father started out just like he did while we were married, not present. I had to communicate with my ex husband's parents regarding my child's health, behavior, etc. and when I was supposed to meet my ex husband to 'exchange' our son, he was never present. The times that he was present, he brought different girls around to introduce me to and having multiple females around my son. I'll try to point out everything in short terms: they don't bathe him, the don't 'groom' him, don't get his haircut, put clothes on him three sized too small, don't dress him accordingly to the weather, let him stay up late so he's tired for school the next day, don't feed him healthy food (their idea of a dinner is eggs and bread.), they've returned him to me sick and they didn't say anything, he's been sick for 4 days and no one called to tell me, they don't take him to the doctor when he's sick instead they wait until I get him back so I can miss work, he's been saying bad words that i know for sure he gets from his father, he's bounced around from the grandparents' house to sometimes his dad's, his dad has moved 7 times within the past year and a half, he's missed a lot of school, they overdosed him on his ADHD medication and none of the three had consistent story and the grandmother giggled about it but first tried to lie about it, then they have been skipping his dosages on his medicine, brainwashing him to be terrified of me, the grandmother telling him that he can't love me and that I don't love him, on the days he's supposed to be with his dad they are late for his appointments and have not showed up to some, the appointment that we were supposed to get our son's diagnosis my ex husband called an hour before the appointment to say that he was sick with mono and couldn't come but he was fine to pick him up on his scheduled day two days from the appointment! He's been returned to me smelling of garbage and body odor, long and dirty fingernails and filty clothes that are way too small. My ex husband has been lying, saying that he has his son more than the grandparents but since June of 2011 on my son's school sign in/out sheet, his name only shows up 5 times. And I'm still having to communicate with the grandparents to talk to my son or check on his health. We still have 50/50 right now but I filed for a modification of child custody and have been documenting every single thing for the past three years. I just need advice, how do I get everything organized without going to the courtroom with diarrhea of the mouth, what documentation would be more helpful that I have? Please, if anyone has any advice, opinions or comments, let me know! I sure would appreciate it! CPS and the police authority won't help me until he's been severely injured or killed. They need 100% physical evidence. Please, help me!
Child Custody in Unfair Case(2 posts)
Posted 1 year ago #
Every time you take him to the doctor, if you can prove that he was sick in his father's custody, get records. The doctor will gladly help you! Take pictures--if he has bruises/scrapes or is dirty when you get him back, if his clothes don't fit, everything. You need physical evidence or you'll get caught up in a he-said/she-said and that's no fun. As for the other women around, you can request that he stop doing that around your son, even put it in writing and get him to sign it (get it notarized of course) and if you see him with another woman, you can "pick a fight" with him for violating your agreement-this will prove that he does what he wants regardless of your wishes. Best thing I can tell you--get a paper and photo trail, anything and everything!Posted 11 months ago #
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