I have a need for some advice.
I was recently dumped by the girl I have been seeing for the last couple months. I met her at work. She'd had a crush on me and I one on her ... and when I found out she liked me, I asked her out and things were overall great.
And yes, she's a single mother with a nearly 8 month old daughter. And she's also in her final quarter of college.
Anyway, she told me she wanted to take it slow. And we did. Well, things naturally heated up. She later told me she had "strong feelings" for me and also said she agreed with me that we would probably be together for a long time. She was previously in an awful, abusive relationship and I helped her reclaim part of herself... she told me she loved experiencing things with me, and missed me.
She had even agreed to accept a key to my apartment.
I told her over text that I was falling in love with her. She said, over text, "WOW ... I mean... wow"
I back peddled a little and said "I'm just trying to say I have very strong feelings for you."
And she replied, "I know "
And she still called me "babe" and was cute and romantic with me after that.
And then school got super stressful with midterms. And she suddenly got a little more distant. But I figured it was because of studying (which she said it was.)
And then out of the blue, she turned COLD on me. On Monday, she suddenly told me that we weren't even officially dating and described our entire relationship as "just ah handful of dates." She said two months was no big deal and balked at the fact I had told her I was falling in love with her.
She told me she was upset with me because when she walked into work, many employees asked her if she had wished me happy birthday... and she felt "overwhelmed." She said it wasn't appropriate that I had talked with people about us dating while at work ... I should have known better, but I was just so smitten and excited that I was with her, I couldn't help it.
She also said she didn't trust me not to push it too far since had she told me she wanted to take it slow more than once ... I couldn't be trusted NOT to do that again. But .... I was confused because of the "serious feelings" and "long future together" discussions we'd had.
I don't know what to do. I guess I'll leave her alone. I think she just got freaked out. She freaked out on me a little at the end of March... but later apologized and said it was stress. But nothing like that.
I wonder if she'll ever come back?