When was the last time you had sex?

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When was the last time you had sex?

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Precious68
Member

Well someone OL wanted to have sex with me when he is visiting me. I am in Asia and he is in US lol ... I dunno how to react since the last time I had sex was 3 years ago OMG... I know its terribly sad.. I am virgin again...lol I do wish to have it with someone really special... I am such a sucker for romance...i guess most guys they only think about SEX... how come and when can we get them to be in tune with us? i wish I can say this to them: "Guys read my lips - I like to make love not SEX"

Posted 3 years ago #
Nico
Member

Last night baby! I am single and loving it. I don't have a boyfriend per se but i just went on this incredibly crazy ten day trip to make some money and on the way home I made my "layover" fly through his city and conveniently force me to stay for one night!

I know it's not the path to a big love, but damn did it feel good...

I don't know ladies, maybe I am kinda OOC but i just don't have trouble in this department. I love being single!

Posted 3 years ago #
IM
Member

The last time I had sex was when I got pregant(3years). I really don't know how I do it, but am really affaid of bring a guy around my child and I just haven't meet anyone I have found attractive.

Posted 3 years ago #
2greatkids
Member

I had "emotional" intimacy with another man before I told my husband it was over. I realized the reason I did that was because there was no intimacy in my marriage..just two people leading separate lives getting their own needs met through marriage. When I told him it was over and I didnt want to go to counseling; that I didn't believe he could ever give me what I was in need of after asking for over 3 years...(affection, expression, dates, compliments, kisses before goin to sleep), I quickly progressed to physical with the emotional intimacy guy, but not sex. I then met someone at a lounge/restaurant/club who was a good dancer (I am a sucker for a guy who can dance)and we had sex after a few dates..and it was horrible. I didnt even like him I guess, but for some reason it all happened so quickly (lol) I didnt even have a chance to tell him I didnt want it. Was still living with the ex... mediation was well under way. I felt like since I told him it was over, and I knew it was, that I was free to move on. I am unconventional in that way... a piece of paper does not a marriage make. Now I have a boyfriend and the paperwork is still not final... and the sex is amazing.
Who knew it could be anything but perfunctory.. once every couple weeks style?

Posted 3 years ago #
boarderccb
Member

3 days ago with my BF of 7 months. He's amazing...and totally rocks my socks off :D

Posted 3 years ago #
momma2boys
Member

A week ago - with the guy I've been dating for about a month. Wow I have said the words "we are dating" out loud yet, it's crazy.
I'm so afraid to jinx it, that's all I'm going to type for now!!!

Posted 3 years ago #
TheAzuredrake
Member

This past weekend! Holy crap was I nervous!

Met a guy at a bar Friday night. Met up with him later Saturday for an entire day of 4wheeler riding (something I've been dying to do since I moved back to PA) and let me tell you to me riding around on a 4 wheeler with a guy is just as good as foreplay!

We ended the night in his truck out on some strip mining road because neither of us had a place to go. It was like high school only better!

Before that night I had said, to myself and several other potential guys, "no sex in a vehicle for me anymore!" but...you do what you gotta do! So worth it.

But can I say even better then the great sex was being with a guy who just made me smile for no good reason?! I forgot how awesome a nice guy can be.

Posted 3 years ago #
ronarocks
Member

TOO LONG!

IM, you are right about keeping them away from the kids. I almost did introduce to my DD but thought better of it and it was good. It didn't last and she was 3, so it would have been difficult for her. Luckily she has a great dad so he will come and pick her up and take care of her if I want a date or an "overnight". I did the same for him for a while. We didn't get along at all at first, so that was hard, but we both were at least in agreement to not make it confusing for her. Also... you never know them well enough. At least not for a long time. She's too important to take that risk.

Posted 3 years ago #
SemanticallyDriven
Member

Momma2boys - I'm in the same boat as you. I too don't want to jinx it.

Posted 3 years ago #
LoopyLissa
Member

I am trying to decide whether/how I can ask a guy I know for meaningless sex. How do you start that conversation? "Hey, I want to come over? No strings, no emotions." The other choice is to go to a bar and see who looks remotely interesting. But, next Saturday, I need to find some.

Posted 3 years ago #
samarkis
Member

OK ladies....It's been over a year and a half for me....BUT...I do not suffer too much.....A boyfriend I had from my single days taught me to "sex myself" so that I could hold out against the wrong types......It has helped me thru a lonely marriage and it has helped me from falling into traps....I do not judge anyone for their own choices, however, for those of us that prefer a loving commitment....I plan on holding out!!! (also, MANY women in their fifties-menopause are taught how to sex themselves as their husbands can't or they are single....It is just GOOD HEALTH!) Pls do not be embarrassed to love yourself!!
Men do it ALL the time!!

Chin up Ladies!!
You know how to do things & do them better!
: )

Posted 3 years ago #
PattiB66
Member

This is awesome that this is my first post here, but I guess it's been a couple months. Before that, probably a year. The thing is - I do have a boyfriend! He lives at home with his mother and brothers, and I had to move in with my mother too. We don't have privacy anywhere, and until I find a new place, we won't. How do I cope? The best I can.

Posted 3 years ago #
desperatehousewive
Member

It's been about 15 months- had sex the day after Thanksgiving last year! It was with a guy I started dating a year previous but then he stopped contacting me--we have had sex a few times. I think he stopped contacting me because I gave it up too soon and I was too easy. I have a problem with that. I had the chance to do it again but I don't want to be his booty call. When I was married, I had sex maybe once a year, or once every two years and i was only married 7 years. My ex sex'starved me! but after we were divorced we had sex twice!

Posted 3 years ago #
Ma
Member

Honestly I had sex yesterday. Before that it was Wednesday. I think I've only ever gone like 2 months and that was crazy. The thing is, I'm not even in a serious relationship, but I like the guy a lot and we get along well. Being around him and with him is so easy, carefree, and fun. I was talking to a girlfriend the other day and I think having sex at least once a week is very beneficial (it'd be best if it's with the same person, so one at a time. Believe me, juggling is a messy situation.) I also think that a lot of times women are afraid to just say "hey, I love sex and I want it so give it to me." I have to say I am not one of those women and my sex life it pretty great. There's nothing wrong with having sex because you want sex, again I will say that it's better to be dating the guy and let him be the one pleasing you for pleasure's sake ;).

Posted 3 years ago #
snglemom0f4
Member

Last weekend was the last time I had sex. I pretty much get it at least once per week. Ususally on the weekend. I have found it to be super easy to get laid with the right websites. Sites like http://www.datesofplenty.com/ are all it takes to get laid these days. And its free to boot. What more could you need in getting cheap meaningless sex.

Posted 3 years ago #
Julie
Member

Posted 3 years ago #
MaRiSoL
Member

3 1/2 months ago was the last time.. with my ex while we were still together. I know it's not as long as some of the other single moms but really I don't understand how you all do it. I feel like I am gonna go jump the next hot looking man I see. I think about it everyday. I haven't been with another man other than my ex for over 8 years so I think I am a little terrified for when the time comes. I am waiting on the final divorce papers because I just wont feel right about being with another man while I am still legally married. My ex on the other hand, I am sure he has made his rounds.

Posted 3 years ago #
cuddlycutebaby
Member

i dont remember when was the last sex i had because it has been months since i am having nothing such.
i remain very busy in my life, with my profession as well as my kid. i dont get any time to interact with men for such needs.

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Posted 3 years ago #
naturallysinglemom
Member

SO jealous of all of you.

I'm going on three years, next month. Three YEARS.

Feel sorry for me. Go ahead. Because I certainly feel sorry for myself! ;)

The problem is, I could have had meaningless sex at least a couple of times by now, but I don't want my first time back on the horse - so to speak - to be with someone I don't even have slight feelings for. I've never been able to pull off meaningless sex.

That being said, I'm so ridiculously horny, it's unreal.

Posted 3 years ago #
mrsabby
Member

it "was" 2 yrs-not even making out. Then I started getting some actions weekly! I just found out he got me preggo. He's said nothing toward the fact. I'm not chasing after him either.

Posted 2 years ago #
MsNvmbr
Member

18 months ago...and that's when I was still with my baby's father. He turned me away 3 times...just this past Christmas Eve, I found out why he was turning me away...he was sleeping with someone else. Dirty bastard.

Posted 2 years ago #
chasingrainbows
Member

I was seriously neglected in my marriage...so now sex has taken on this very important role for me. (and I am loving it!) I had some good success with online dating after my divorce....met some really nice men, hooked up with an old boss through Match.com- that was really fun. Now I am in a committed relationship with a man I work with- and I must say the sex ROCKS! Tried friends with benefits- that was pretty tough though. I guess it all depends what you are looking for. Most (all- really) of my divorced friends are looking for deep, loving relationships (with great sexual partners). Some have found what they are looking for- others are playing the field (and a lot of games, which seems to be affecting her self-esteem). I think if you open yourself up to these experiences, they will find you. It was 2 nights ago, by the way!

Posted 2 years ago #
Alejendro
Member

It's really nice to read all the comments being a bachelor :-P I dream to become a Single Dad someday LOL

Posted 2 years ago #
ndnmetalmom
Member

Last time I had sex was before my move. I was just recently dumped by my boyfriend because I have a kid... that he KNEW about.. but anyway.. wasn't good sex.
I'm not even horny ever anymore.. I think I'm broken.

Posted 2 years ago #
antique.roses
Member

Well, for me it took me four years before I was finally ready to open myself up like that again after my ex left me for another man's wife 7 years younger with no kids. It's not easy to feel sexy again when your body has had two kids and you're not 20 anymore. Then when it did happen the guy only lasted about 30 seconds! I was so mad. I waited 4 years for that! Needless to say that this guy and I didn't last long after that. It's almost May and the last I was active was last August. After 4 years of celibacy, this is nothing. I've been so busy with kids, their school, my job, trying to buy a house, dealing with the ex...who has the time and energy to look for someone and do that!? Hopefully someone will fall into my lap and then some "joy" will come into my life. Momma needs some lovin' too. :o)

Posted 2 years ago #
smtag29
Member

Hey ladies,

I am a single mom to a 11 year old... I haven't been with someone since last April. I am really scared to have sex with a man that's showing interest (and that I like too). I am scared it's going to hurt like crazy and I won't be able to enjoy it.

Anyone had the same fear or been through this?

Posted 2 years ago #
daxia
Member

2 weeks ago with my FWB, a cute young man. It was amazing and we filmed it.
However, I do hope to share my bed with a regular guy that can play daddy with my kids one of these days.

Posted 2 years ago #
Vox
Member

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Posted 1 year ago #
singlefrenchie
Member

So glad to hear I am not the only one with these issues...I'm a really young mommy under 30...and been craving it! About 6 months now- no sex...although I think it's just a matter of time..I too don't want to be seriously involved, something casual would be perfect in my crazy busy life!

Posted 1 year ago #