I have 56/44 shared custody, both legal and physical custody of my children with my ex. Over the summer things have been perfectly fine, then just out of the blue my 12&14 year olds asked about going to another school that a relative of their dad's teaches at. This school is 30 miles one way and in another county! Our school starts in a week! I talked to them and their dad and was willing to discuss options and WE came to the decision that we would see how the first semester went here and if it didn't work out then we'd discuss it. Now all of a sudden I find out that they are refusing to come home and want to move in with their dad full time if I don't agree to let them go to the new school? I've contacted both county school boards and have basically been told that he can enroll them without my permission and the court clerk said they are of age to decide where they want to live in our state! There is little to no supervision at their dad's, them getting to and from school will be left to a 16 year old and in the past dad has had the teachers not contact me regarding school matters.
So, not only am I upset that I'm basically being blackmailed by my own children, but concerned I would be completely isolated from the now. I'm the mom who is at every single practice, games etc....
Help!!! They won't even return my calls. I believe this all stemmed from dad's disapproval of oldest daughter's bi racial boyfriend.
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Daughters want to live with father
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MemberPosted 10 months ago # -
Okay, well you posted this a week ago, so hopefully you have taken this time to get yourself in a calmer state. Now, I say let the lil' boogers (and I mean that with the upmost love lol) stay with their father until his 44% is up. If he doesn't comply after that then raise hell. But, you did mention they weren't answering your calls, and that's a big no-no, I would think in your custody decree that the lines of communication must remain open. I hope your children's father is not that ignorant to be upset about the race of your daughter's boyfriend versus being upset about her having a boyfriend period at 14. I say relax & let them stay, he obviously cares about his daughters, which unfortunately makes him a rarety nowadays lbvs. This is a good time in their life to have more dedicated time from their father, God knows I wish I had said experience. Relax, let their time reach 44%, then pounce like lioness on a zebra lol. Hope I was some kind of help, have a good day.
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Posted 10 months ago #
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