So..I am 20 with a 2 month old.He's my only kid,and I'm still trying to balance having a life, and may I add my baby goes EVERYWHERE with me! I love every minute of it,but of course. His dad hasn't offered to see him once, or know his NAME at that. Point being, my number one want.. is finding a male role model for him,and one who will be there for me. Selfish sounding? I started talking to this guy (21 years old) who lives 3 hours away.. we texted every day for 3 weeks. He had the looks,the great personality, constantly complimented.. and said he couldn't wait to meet "little man" and it made me feel so relieved to find someone okay with it. Until, I went to see him, took the baby with me.. and it was so awkward! I felt so out of place going out of my way as it was.. and then I had to face the room mate of his..and all sorts of thoughts & embarrassment came to my mind, because never have I been in the "meeting a guy,having a kid" situation!
and it turned out he decided he wasn't ready for the baby life after all! Did I spring it onto him? Ugh, its a bit embarrassing for me to even share..
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baby was too much?
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Posted 3 years ago #
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I feel like since you were honest up front with him about your baby from the beginning, then you shouldn't feel embarrassed! It's his choice to not feel like he's ready to "play daddy" yet, which most 21 year old men aren't... but I hope that didn't make you feel bad! It's nice that he wanted to at least try. It sucks that you went all the way out there only to be disappointed, but with time, you'll find someone who is ready to embrace you, and your little guy as if you were one!!
Posted 3 years ago # -
kristen
Memberi wouldn't worry so much about finding a male role model at this point. you are enough for your son and will be able meet all his needs as long as you believe that you can do it.
Posted 3 years ago #
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