My daughter loves him....she loves him not. Advice on how to help them mesh.

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My daughter loves him....she loves him not. Advice on how to help them mesh.

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WEEZY0821
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Hmm... Ok.. Not sure how exciting this is, but I was planning on posting here today anyway. Ok, so I finally have a wonderfull man who not only loves me but loves my two kids as well. May actually love them more then he loves me...lol. My question is this, my 6 year old daughter likes him but also dislikes him. She's very torn on the situation... See More. When he's not around she asks for him alot and asks when he will be coming to visit. However, when he is around, she is rather cold and a little rude to him. Obviously, I handle the situation of the rudness because that will just not be tolerated. (Manners) but I guess is there any suggestions on ways that maybe they can bond or find some common ground. Considering that he is a good man who loves them and me and that 2 year old son ADORES him and that yes, even my daughter likes him very much and he makes me VERY VERY HAPPY, I'd love for them to be able to get along to the fullest of their abilities.

Posted 2 years ago #
akaymom
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Your daughter sounds very much like my daughter Addie(who just turned 7 in June)... Rob and I have dated for nearly a year, but those first few months were tough. She loved him and he loved her as well, but she tested the heck out of us. She did the attitude, was rude, had a few melt-downs that weren't typical, etc. etc. I hoenstly think it was an effort to test us to see how I'd handle it and how he would (if he'd still love her when she did). I also think Addie didn't know how to share me - I've been divorced for 5 years and it was a shock to have someone taking attention from her.

I think you're on the right track -- correcting the manners side of it. But time was our best cure. They get along so well now. She really needed to see (much as I did) that Rob was in it to stay. She's not perfect, but the attitude is so much better. Also, counseling might be a good thought. I honestly wish I'd done that earlier to give her an outlet to get her feelings out.

Best of luck to you!!

Posted 2 years ago #
LS0129
Member

I need some advise too. I have been dated my boyfriend for about a year. Both of us enjoy our relationship and time together, however, we do not want to get into marriage. My reason is that both of my kids strongly told me that they do not want a stepfather ( I didn't tell my boyfriend though - should I?)Also should I try to help them mesh and spend more time togehter even we do not consider to get married?

Posted 2 years ago #