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What is a "normal life"?

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  1. lovemyboyz
    Member

    Is it possible to forget what a "normal" life is like? I've been a single mom for 5 years now and lately I have been asking myself what was it like to have a man around? What did we do? What did we talk about? And for the life of me, I cannot remember... I think I might be ready to meet someone new, special, a friend, (if they still exist) and go from there but I don't even know what we might talk about.

    I don't like to talk about my life/kids to just any stranger and it seems that that's usually where or how things start. How am I suppose to keep a conversation going if I don't talk about my life?

    I guess in these 5 years of being without a man, I have just concentrated on my boys and I am still afraid of what's out there. I feel like a teenager again, wondering what kind of guy I will meet one day and if it'll work, if he'll always be nice... too many questions going through my mind, UGH!!!

    Anybody out there have any suggestions or advice?

    Posted 2 years ago #

  2. kimberly
    Member

    Oh my gosh! You and I are in such a similar situation. I have two boys (11 and 14) and I have made them the center of my world for a long long time.

    While I'm glad I took the time to focus on raising really great kids, I realize that in a few short years, they'll be driving off to college and I'll be here all alone. What will I center my world on then? It can't be them. They'll be smothered!

    My ex doesn't see my kids every other weekend...he hardly sees them at all, so it doesn't really free up time to date.

    So, therefore, it's been a long long time since I've dated. I've been divorced for almost seven years, and with the exception of one semi-long-term boyfriend (who decided to cheat on me), I can count the number of dates since then in the single digits.

    All I can tell you is that I have started a year-long experiment to wiggle me out of my shell. During the first three months of the year, I'll be focused on online dating. I'm hoping to sort of "practice" dating. I want to get the hang of it again.

    The second three months of the year, my goal is to say yes to every social event that I'm invited to (kind of get new doors open, so to speak). Maybe I'll meet someone new?

    After that, I'm not sure...but I'll be blogging about it as I go. If you're interested in following along, I'd love to have you keep up with my blog:

    http://www.rubberchickenmadness.blogspot.com/

    I know exactly how you feel. I wish I had some great answer for you, but maybe I'll find it as I work my way through this experimental dating year.

    Posted 2 years ago #

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