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Do you want more kids?

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Tishia
Member

I'm 34 and my son will be 11 in a few months. I've always wanted three but now I'm not sure anymore. I guess I'm just at the point where I keep thinking if it happens it happens if not then I'm ok with that too. So when it comes to dating I at least want a man that is open to the idea of having kids.

Posted 3 years ago #
val912
Member

Im 27 and my kids are 6 and 4, I actually would love one more. But i am in a grueling custody battle. Maybe when this ordeal is over i can think about having another little one.

Posted 3 years ago #
untyingtheknot
Member

I'm 32, mother of 4, pretty sure I don't want or need anymore kids.

But, if I fell in love with a man and he wanted me to have his baby, I think I could be convinced.

I actually kind of wonder what kind of mother I would be to a child after going through all of this. I'm more mature and centered than I was when I was having my babies in my 20s.

Posted 3 years ago #
Nydia_aidyN
Member

Hmmm ... I know I'm a little late responding to this particular topic but I'm a bit gun shy about having more kids. I'm 31 and my son is 4. I'm dating someone that doesn't have children but wants at least one. When we discuss it, I break out in a cold sweat. I think I can be convinced to have ONE more and that IT! ... and I've told him that should it be his baby, he'll have to hire me a personal trainer AND nutritionist/dietitian upon me giving birth ... in addition to that, I'll need some laser treatment on these existing stretch marks and those to come ... I get to name the baby (he can give a middle name if he'd like) and finally -- NO WAY am I doing this natural. My son was delivered via c-section and I didn't have to lift a finger! It was like I was at a spa! OH .. and I won't breastfeed either so as long as he can agree to those terms -- maybe MAYbe -- I'll have myself another child.

Posted 3 years ago #
ghawk
Member

I'm happy with my daughter... My former husband has two teenage kids from his previous marriage so when we got married I went from a single (9 months pregnant but still) 24 year old grad student to being married with 3 kids... I'm divorced but N. still has 2 amazing half sisters, so she is not an only child... Most of the people I know or work with are my age or older, most not married, and none of them have kids... So I'm assuming that if I meet the right guy - he may want to have kids of his own... Well - I'm not sure I want to go through it again...

Posted 3 years ago #
winecountrymom
Member

I am 31 years old with an 11 year old and an 8 year old. I never closed the chapter on having more kids, deciding that if I met the right guy and he wanted kids, I would definitely have more. But my magic number was 35, after that, no way! Thing is, now that I am 31 I am starting to realize that I really am done, and would rather decide for myself whether I want more kids rather than wait for some knight in shining armor to decide for me. My oldest will be 20 years old when I am 40, and that is very appealing to me. I will be spending my 40's making up for everything I "lost" in my 20's. And just thinking about chasing after a toddler for the next several years is as appealing as gouging out my eyeballs.

Crissi
WineCountyMom

Posted 3 years ago #
centralil
Member

I am a 32 year old mom of an only. I would like to have more kids. My son has asked me for years if he could have a little sibling. He doesn't care if it was a boy or girl, he just wants to be a big brother. My response to him was I needed to wait until we could afford another person in our house. I did not tell him we needed a daddy, I told him that we could do foster care or adopt because there were lots of kids out there with no mommies or daddies to love them. He is eight now and still wants to be a big brother. As soon as I get him home, I know it will be a front running topic again. The only way I would ever consider giving birth again is if I was married and could be SAHM. I would not try to work full time and take care of a family and be preggers all at the same time. I have more respect for my body than that.

Posted 3 years ago #
Cammie
Member

I would like to have at least one more child. I am 28 and my daughter just turned 11 (today!). When I got pregnant with my daughter and got married we planned on having at least one more child within 2 years or so. It didn't happen and honestly our marriage would never have worked anyway.

I enjoyed my daughter but, I was a frightened teenage mother and wife at the time. I don't think I enjoyed it as much as I should have.

Posted 3 years ago #
cuddlycutebaby
Member

I am happy with my 3 year son. I am 28 year old and no need more kids. present time the responsibility of child is very high so i feel i am not capable for Second child.

Dogs And Children With Autism

Posted 3 years ago #
Abimom328
Member

I'm 21 and my little girl is 2 and a 1/2 months old. When I was younger I always said I wanted six kids. Then I decided I didn't want to completely live my life for my kids, and at the earliest I would start having them at like 28--if ever--with a hubby of course. When I got pregnant, I went through the turmoil of not only doing it alone, but trying to make my heart accept the decision my mind had made of adoption. Didn't pan out. Two months before her due date (and a month before she got here) I made the decision to be a single mom. I think it was probably the same week that I decided I wanted more kids. It's definitely a deal breaker with me should I ever meet a "bear". But I'm also considering having a second child on my own, my mom did it after all, so the idea doesn't scare me. My sister and I are only a year apart in age and I so wish that I could give that to Abigail. Soo not gonna happen. I was only four months old when she got pregnant with my sister, and I'm terrified of even dating. I've got tons of time, but I was picky before and my standards have seriously risen. I don't want my little girl to be an only, but I'm also saddened and slightly uncomfortable that her only siblings will be halvsies.

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Posted 1 year ago #