Let me first say that I have never been married before. I am also single. About 3 1/2 months ago (1/10/11) i heard about a single mom from my church who was moving from her apartment into a new house. I followed her outside after church one day asking if she needed any extra furniture. She seemed very thankful so I sent her pictures. She replied back to my email with a thankful response and told me she'd let me know if she decided to take me up on the deal.
A month later (2/8/11), she bought the house and needed help moving in. This is where it all started... :) Me, along with 10 (married) guys from the church showed up to help her move into her new house. I found that everywhere I went (moving stuff in her house), that she was following me. She laughed at little things I did and the way I acted picking heavy stuff up, LoL. I ran upstairs with a buddy to help him put the baby crib back together and after a minute passed, I saw her appear in the room and sit down next to me. She helped me put the bed back together... All of this really surprised me. I didn't know what she was doing, but I felt a vibe.
The next few weeks at church showed her getting more into my space. She would walk right past me and look my way several times. However, I didn't know whether or not her divorce papers were signed, so I didn't want to flirt or start making anything more out of our friendship. I played it very casual, even though I was (and still am) very attracted to her. Someone told me that her mother asked her if any of the guys helping her move last month were single and that she should try and get to know them! A few more weeks passed and eventually a month went by. She came to church as much as she could... some weeks she wouldn't come. But I noticed that she stopped coming into my space. In fact, she avoided me altogether.
I heard at the end of the month (2/28/11) that her divorce papers had been signed. I try and keep up with her as best I can on Facebook. She'll post pictures of her and her 2 year old from time to time. I'll comment on her wall and she'll always comment back. One of the ladies (friend of mine and hers) at church suggested that I ask her out! Do these women "talk?" A week ago I sent her an email asking her how she's liking her new house and if she'll be at church on Wednesday to talk. :) We entertained small talk for about 10 minutes and I enjoyed it. Today (3/27/11), I decided to make a move.
I saw her walking to her car after church this morning and decided to see how her weekend went. As we made it to the car I decided to pop the question. Unsure of how to do it, I just asked told her that I enjoy talking with her but it we don't have much time at church to get into any conversation. I asked her if she'd like to meet me for dinner, maybe on a night that her ex-husband has the baby. She said yes, but fumbled when thinking of a good day. She says she has the baby for the entire week and normally drops the baby off at her ex's house for the weekend. She says she's in a weird situation right now. The last thing she said was, "I'll let you know, lemme think about it." Sounds like she's interested, but isn't sure, LoL!
Tonight she made it back to church, but I decided to back off and stay out of her space. I respect her and don't want to make any foolish decisions. Does this woman sound serious to you all? I wonder if she means what she says. Remember, she initially surprised me with her interest, then nothing, now I surprise her with my interest. What to do, what to do!?