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He left me twice while pregnant

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muzikfan100
Member

Well this is my first time on any sort of forum so please bear with me. I guess I'm just having difficulty navigating my emotions right now. I'm in my mid twenties and currently 32 weeks pregnant with a very active little boy that I adore. The father has left me 2x while pregnant. The first was 2 weeks after finding out we were expecting. He got scared and ran. After months of no contact we began communicating again and after a month of that we realized there was more there so we began dating again. Well, that lasted 2 more weeks and after a hormonal break down over bills on my end, he left. Just like that. Stopped talking to me and said that he was 'indifferent to seeing me.' There is so much more to the story (isn't that always the case...) both times he left me, he went running back to his 19 year old ex. I understand that he is not loyal, trustworthy, responsible or respectful but that doesn't change the fact that I did love him and that we do have a child on the way. I'm angry that he used me for a place to live, money, and support and then couldn't even be loyal enough to give us a shot. Then I go from being angry to hurt. From hurt to sad. Sad to guilty and then back to angry. Anyone out there have any words of wisdom? As of right now I have ceased all contact with him seeing as though he can't seem to get his stuff together to support himself let alone our child. Thanks for reading and for any support--who knew this part of pregnancy would be so challenging

Posted 2 years ago #
amyinbc
Member

I am so sorry you find yourself in this position.. pregnant and without the support of the baby's father.

But now you know. He is not to be trusted and it is time to move on. I am not sure of the laws of your area but where I live the 'father' is legally obligated to provide for his children financially until they are 19 years of age. The government will garnish his wages/welfare/taxes to ensure it. Look into it soon.

He may not be a part of your child's life but he should be held accountable financially.

Be strong and enjoy your pregnancy as best you can. It sounds like you are far better off being a single mom than with a man who has so little regard for you and your pregnancy.

Posted 2 years ago #
rosemarie
Member

I felt sad reading your story. But i do agree with amyinbc.
I know that we could tell you to move on yet I understand that it's not easy, especially I am not in your shoes. But you have to learn to let go of things and people that are not meant or you. You don't deserve to be in the same situation over and over again. My mom have the same story as yours and it even have created 4 of us. It took a long time before she realized and let go. I hope it wouldn't take much time for you.

Just pour all your attention and love to your kids. Eventually you will learn to be happy once you have accepted the situation. Don't mourn because it cant do anything. Instead live for your babies and yourself. I know that you're a great person. Someday everything will be okay. Everything in its own time

Posted 2 years ago #
muzikfan100
Member

Thank you both for your advice and support. It's so nice to have others out there that understand where I'm coming from a little more than those I'm around every day. I definitely am doing my best to stay strong for both me and my son. I am counting my blessings that I will have him. I am also looking into all the legal actions that I need to take, I just hate that there has to be so many politics involved in the birth of a child sometimes. Oh well, that's life and I just have to keep my chin up. Thank you both again, it really means a lot to me.

Posted 2 years ago #
Kimber143
Member

Hey, I'm new to this website and all of this, my boyfriend has been doing pretty much the same thing to me and i'm only 18 weeks pregnant. He broke up with me for a week and then came back and is now doing it again, yet being so vague on whether we are together or if hes even going to be involved with the baby. Do you have a facebook or something we could talk on? i could really use your advice on how you've made it so far, cause this is destroying me.

Posted 1 year ago #