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Am I freaking our prematurely?

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  1. redvolvodavid
    Member

    I've always been the "nice guy." Well, I saw a friend from high school 4 months ago, who is now a single mama. We went out to eat and drinks with a mutual friend from high school. I spent the night with her. We've seen each other probably 6 times, or so, in the past several months and last weekend, I drove down and we went out on Saturday evening with the same mutual friend. While out, she was texting a LOT. I glanced over and saw a mutual friends name on her phone, a guy. He is a single dad with two girls. Sure, they have common ground, but she even mentioned talking to him the next morning and that they've been chatting a lot. So that took away my worry since I doubted she would mention him otherwise.

    On Sunday, we had gone to brunch with our friend and her boyfriend. I dropped her off at home, walked her up, said our goodbyes, hugged for a minute then kissed a couple of times. Then I got a text telling me thanks again for the weekend.

    Monday, we facebook chat for a while. Nothing Tuesday. Wednesday morning I send a text telling her "Good morning beautiful. I hope your Tuesday was great and that today is even better." I hear nothing back. It's not Thursday and still nothing. I wouldn't usually make such a big deal out of this, but in 4 months that we have been "casually dating," we have gone no longer than 1 day without mutual contact.

    Other info to consider: She told me from the beginning that she wasn't really looking for anything and didn't want anything serious right now. Thus the "causal dating" term she threw in there. I've not met her 2.5 year old daughter. I gave her an out twice, but she said both times that she wanted to keep going as we were. Her divorce is not finalized (signed), but she's been apart from him for about 15 months. He cheated on her. We've been going pretty slow. We're a little over 3 hours apart, so we've both made an effort to see each other. Sometimes at her place, sometimes in our home town (which is in the middle for both of us).

    I've been a different person the last two days. I've been extremely depressed about this. I know that relationships have to be two sided, so if she doesn't see anything, that's fine. It just seems odd that she would drop off so suddenly without any sort of explanation.

    Should I send a message to her asking if she needs some space? She's totally worth the wait in my opinion and she's an awesome mother. I just may be a fool to wait at this point. I'm willing to be patient. Your help is very appreciated. Ask anything else you need to know. I'll be very open.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  2. AK-10
    Member

    When someone pulls a complete disappearing act usually means they have started seeing someone else whom they have more of an interest in. If she still has not contacted you since this post well, they are still involved. My feeling is it's with the guy she was texting all night and the reason they didn't further the relationship was because he was not ready. Once he was ready, you got booted out of the picture.

    Posted 1 year ago #

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