My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now. I have a daughter who is 20 months. (just a quick background--her biological father is not in the picture, at all. I made some decisions and moves to make it that way before she was even born. we are all better off, trust me.)
When you know, you know. That is what I believe. And I knew on our first date that he was going to be "the one". We both are very open with each other and communicate very well, about everything. We are both very much in love with each other and know that every day is a new building block to our relationship.
A few days ago, he expressed to me that he is feeling very overwhelmed with the concept of him being in a relationship that involves a child. Especially because of how quickly my daughter has bonded with him. ( She talks about him all the time, even when he hasnt seen her for a while. She asks about him and apparently talks about him at her daycare. And to really top it off, she on her own has woken up in the morning saying his name and then "daddy?") I told him that she has been doing this and bringing him up more and more. Obviously it eventually set in for him and he naturally felt uncomfortable.
Now here is where I am at...I completely understand where he is coming from. This has all developed very quickly. Not that it has been forced to this point, cause it hasn't. We both allowed it to progress to what felt right and natural. Our best way to describe our relationship from day one has been "effortless". In reference to our feelings for each other and the ease of it all. Not to say that our relationship doesnt take work, every relationship takes work. I am head over heels for this guy and he claims to feel the same way about me. The last thing I want to hear is that he is having a hard time accepting my daughter. Although, he says he is crazy about her as well and cares for her a lot. He said that is was when he heard she was making the "daddy connection" that it freaked him out.
I am sorry if this post is all over the place, but this just happened a few days ago. I am still trying so hard to get my head right and approach this the right way so that we can move forward in a positive way and continue to grow together. I am a mental and emotional mess and I just feel very helpless. Im not sure what is the right way to act on all of my emotions. I just need some advice...that is why I am here.