I've begun a relationship with a really great woman with a beautiful smile and gorgeous light blue eyes. Her son sounds like a really good kid and person (13y). I have not met him as 'the boyfriend' yet but look forward to it - but completely understand the when and how is up to her.
We've had 3 really awesome, long, dates so far (4-5 hours each) with a couple lunches at work in the mix (we work for the same employer and in the same building, but in two entirely different fields) I've respected her unspoken wish to move slowly, but I've also begun to show more specific physical attraction to her and made it clear I am attracted to her.
However I've suddenly become paranoid and its something that every so often gets to me, usually around holiday weekends where most "normal" people have plans. I have very people I would actually call a 'friend'. And truth be told I have no 'best friend' It doesn't really bother me too greatly, I'm not depressed, I'm not socially awkward and people do like me socially - but I've just never made a great social attachment to other guys or girls except a few from work (I'm 31) and even those aren't very 'firm' I do spend majority of my time outside of work not doing a whole lot, but stay content and comfortable. But with her coming into my life, I've been filled with a desire to start doing "things" to make me more happy and less of a sedantary bum.
The paranoid part is telling her this. She has enough on her mind as a single mom and working woman, let alone trying to decide whether we will work and I do not want to give her the impression she needs to be my social outlet. She has admitted that she doesn't get out much either and has very much liked going out with me, but I do know she has some girlfriends that are meaningful to her that she shares things with, where I have nothing similar.
I guess I'm just looking for some responses from you ladies how big of a deal this really is. How much of a red flag is it, really? I know this is also a general "dating" issue, but I think the situation is unique.