Ok ladies. I have a date Tuesday night (I know it's a ways away yet but I'm excited. LOL) and as usual I'm nervous. I always get nervous before a date.
My problem? When I get nervous I tend to sweat & it's embarrassing as hell! Any suggestions on what I can do to maybe not be so nervous so I don't sweat so much or something?
Tishia
mamameg
Member
No advice on how not to be nervous, but Dove Clinical Protection Deodorant works REALLY well :)
Thanks. I feel like such a dork. lol What's most embarrassing is that I can feel sweat on my face & uhm hello that's so NOTICEABLE it's not like I can hide that. UGH.
Apples
Member
This is going to sound weird but some makeup (foundation) over heats me. Like its too thick or something I donno or maybe I am just crazy haha!
But honestly IMO you don't want to be trying new things on the night of your date... Might turn out worse then a little sweat..
GOOD LUCK!
ozbrooke
Member
I'm a fairly shy person but I go into new dates thinking about how nervous they must be feeling, and I just concentrate on making them feel comfortable. It really works! I also try to think of a few things to talk about (news items, something I've seen on tv - mostly mundane topics), in case there are any awkward silences.
Good luck with your date! I have one on Sunday night!
Yvonne
Member
Yeeeaaahhh!!! I love dates. I always get nervous before a date as well. :) My advice:
Make sure you have plenty of time to get dressed. I have a two and a five year old, so I try to start getting dressed 30 min- 1 hr before I need to. Just in case there's a tantrum or a fight I need to break apart.lol That way there's no added stress.
I make getting dressed an event in itself. I'm your typical soccer mom during the week. No make-up, sweats, cap, etc. So when I have a date I enjoy getting dolled up, sometimes more than the date itself!! So enjoy picking out your clothes, take your time putting on your make-up. While I do all this I have a glass of wine, and I listen to some music. I listen to dance music. It reminds me of my youth, when I didn't have a care in the world. :) So it helps me relax and enjoy the prep time before a date. If you can manage a bubble bath before all this, that would be awesome. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to pull that off so easily. :)
Last but not least, remember that this is just a date. If it works out then great, if not then you still had the experience of getting dolled up and getting out the house. So remember to smile, think positive thoughts, and have a good time.
Good luck on your date!!
Hannaheliza
Member
i say take it easy, dont over analyze the situation, and dont wear your old maternity pants!
i met up with a guy a few nights ago that ive been somewhat dating over the past few weeks. i honestly thought we were meeting up so that he could call things off..but no. got a few drinks in us, took a walk around the city and ended up all over each other. sounds great right? wrong. because i didnt see us fooling around as a possibility that night, i wore my old maternity jeans (in fairness, i had no other clean pants to wear and it was cold out). so in the midst of a really great make out/grope section, he paused to ask me where the button (for my pants) was. awkward as hell
Hannaheliza - HILARIOUS. I'm sure he didn't care though, right?
Tishia - maybe wear a dark top - one of those flowy ones that drapes over your arms... or is the sweating more in your face and chest. Either way make sure your top is dark and Apples is right, don't wear powder foundation. And I have always used secret deodorant.
As far as being nervous - totally can't help you there. I am ALWAYS nervous on first dates. With the exception of the Bear and I's first non-date. I felt comfortable with him right away. Let him put you at ease... be yourself and have fun!
Apples - I know what you mean about foundation making you hot or something. Once I switched from liquid foundation to mineral make-up where it's all powder it was a huge difference. And yes I agree, no trying new things the night of a date. LOL
Ozbrooke - Good point about them feeling nervous too. I always forget that a man can feel nervous about a date as well. I'll try to remember that Tuesday night & maybe that will help me not focus so much on my nervousness. Good luck with your date Sunday night - be sure to let us know how it goes!!!
Yvonne - I love your ritual of a glass of wine and dance music before a date! What a way to loosen up! I think I might try that Tuesday :-) And thinking positive thoughts is something I definitely have to work on. During a date I'm always thinking OMG what is he thinking about me right now? Is he thinking I'm a dork, is he thinking the things I say are dumb...blah blah blah. Gotta change that thought pattern that's for sure!
Hannaheliza - OMG I can't stop giggling at your little event the other night. How embarrassing! I have to know though, what was your reply when he asked where the button to your pants was? LOL
mssinglemama - My sweating is more in my face & chest area. I use secret deodorant and that works wonderful. I've always been told not to wear dark tops because that will just make me warmer and sweat more. I think I'm gonna go shopping & look for a darker top that flows like you mentioned.
Thanks so much for all your great advice ladies :-) I knew you would offer some great tips for me!
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