I've been dating someone off and on for 10 months. We've recently gotten back together and have committed ourselves this time around and are giving it our all. I've been single for about 2 years, so a little fresh to this still. This may seem odd, but he hasn't met my kids yet. I have 3 and he doesn't have any kids. He is 43, I'm 39. I realize it probably scares him a bit and early on, I was afraid of it as well. Now I'm not and I realize it is a big missing element. He is now saying he will meet them soon...unsure if this will turn into a "stringing along" scenario, but will wait and see. We say Christmas will be the timeline if things go well with us.
So another problem is this: I am in love with him and have told him a few times...didn't expect it back and tried to stay strong when he didn't reciprocate. However, it weighs on me now. He says he goes at his own pace and though it's still frustrating, I'm trying to be patient because he really seems to be putting a lot of effort in our time together now. My gut says he just wants to be sure but my heart is truly worried. It is painful to think my heart is on the line, meanwhile, he may never be able to reciprocate.
Aside from this, is it best to wait for an intro to kids until (if) he says he loves me? I'd hate for them to meet him and get attached only to find out his feelings for me are just not to the same point as mine. Eventually, I'll be walking away and I refuse to keep spinning my wheels.
Any insight out there???