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I was his BOTTCALL now his my baby dady...need advice.

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  1. amani
    Member

    What should I do? ANY ADVICE PLEASE! I was with this guy for over 2years, and he never introduced me as his girlfriend, he often told me that he did loved me though. Now I have his son, six months old. he wasn't there at all for day 1 when i told him I was pregnant. he said it was good, then said I should have abortion.which i refused to have, and that was the end of our relationship..I recently findout that i was just his bottycall.
    On new year's eve he and his family"not biological mom and sisters"come to see the baby after he took my son for DNA. He made a speach saying that he is sorry that he wasn't there for me and That from that moment on I am not going to be alone anymore. Before leaving he told me that he is gona call me and come to my place so that we can talk.A week later he was suppose to come, but he didn't come because I said no that he couldn't come with his girlfriend. we argued a bit and he concluded that it is better we don't talk anymore,,...added that he couldn't come and leave his girlfriend behind, what would she think!and that they now share their budget so on....so I told him to do what pleases him. That day he deposited his $250 child support into my account. And that was it. its been three weeks now and he didnt come to visit, or mention anything about visit. Yesterday he called and said his mom" not biological" and sister they are gona be taking my baby for the weekend , like from friday till Sunday...he didnt mention him seing the baby,, when i said that it smees as he didn't have ny interest whatsover to see or be with our son, he said that he is working 12hrs shoft and that he is also working weekends. this is not true because on weekend and evenings he and his girlfriend they are out drinking and partying..The mom called me today and she said she will be taking the baby for the weekend that she is not working...that I should be introducing bottle to my baby instead of breastfeed so it will be easy when she takes him..this was also said by the babyday to do the samething but never even bodered to buy him any formula....I don't know what to do?? I don't feel comfortable giving my baby to stranger....even if he was to be with the father i feel like the baby is not going to be safe...The father doesn't have any love or any desire to get to know his child. He prefer to spend money and time with his girlfriend whom they are together only for 6months but alredy known by the whole community and facebook profile picture..lol

    Posted 1 year ago #

  2. aya003
    Member

    I say you should not give the baby to his non biological mother. There is no point making you feel uncomfortable if he is not even bothering to come around. I say as long as your getting child support leave it at that. He will be sorry when his son is older and he didnt get to see him grow. Just dont bother with him and worry about your son, if he doesnt care you cant force him to.

    Posted 1 year ago #

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