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The Living Room Date

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  1. mssinglemama
    Key Master

    Bringing back an oldie but goodie... here's an old video I made on how to have the perfect living room date. The idea being that you avoid the cost of a baby sitter.

    http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/13/the-living-room-date/

    So... what are some compliments to this? Any ideas on how to make living room dates even better? Do you guys get nervous the kids will come downstairs?

    Also - do not have living room dates with sketchy men you don't trust (should go without saying but this is something readers brought up to this original post). Be careful.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  2. Jami
    Member

    This is interesting... It's not something I've done yet. I dated a man for three years -- half my son's life. We had living room dates all the time, but they weren't so much like this... It was more like, "Come over for dinner. I'll put the boy to bed and we can hang for a few." It operated more like a married couple than a planned living room date.

    Now that I'm single again, the boy is six and a half and I live with my best friend and her almost two year old son. The boys share a room, which is awesome, but my house is bitty! There is just no feasible way I think I could do this, given my current living situation, and shelter the boy from coming into the living room, stumbling upon a man that he will inevitably have questions about.

    I think if he was younger, this would be an absolute possibility... Sounds like fun!

    Posted 3 years ago #

  3. LucidInsanity
    Member

    I am definitely up for a living room date. Now, I've just got to locate a man who isn't "sketchy". Lol.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  4. Tishia
    Member

    I've never done a living room date before. And honestly it's not even something I've ever considered. My son is 10 now so very rarely does he wake up at night but if he did and came out of his room to find a man there it would be awkward. He would definitely have some questions that's for sure.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  5. arscuore
    Member

    With the few guys I've dated, this was the norm. They didn't want me to have to be bearing the brunt of the costs of going out by paying babysitters all the time. We still went out on the weekends, but this was pretty common for a middle-of-the-week date.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  6. oliviasmom
    Member

    Living room dates are the best! I am pretty low-key, not really a 'get dressed up and go to dinner kind of girl,' so having wine and conversation at home is definitely up my alley.

    My last boyfriend was a gem. We had had a few regular dates, but for our first 'living room date', I didn't have to do any of the work, HE brought a bottle of wine, unprompted. And promptly at midnight, got up, kissed me goodnight, and left so I could go to bed. Like I said, a gem :)

    And Alaina, in your video you talked about leaving Benjamin's belongings out in the open and gauging the man's response to them. LOL, I totally do that too! You can tell A LOT by how a man reacts.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  7. mssinglemama
    Key Master

    Olivia's Mom - you sure can, can't you? The toys tell all. Funny how some things are just universal.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  8. mommamaureen
    Member

    I've done some practice living room dates with just guy friends that I'm totally not romantically interested in since I've had G...though I don't tell them they're practice dates, I just get them to come over and hang out. I know it sounds lame but it helps me to do practice runs at things before even attempting to do the real thing. G is nowhere near sleeping through the night and his bedtime and wake times are still very unpredictable since I'm still nursing. I think I'm not ready to date yet, but I do enjoy the practice dates it's nice to have some adult conversation since I spend my whole day with G...he's got them beat on the cute scale but he's not the best conversationalist just yet.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  9. oliviasmom
    Member

    I don't think that's lame at all!

    Even if you're not ready to date, it's nice to have male companionship, it's comforting, isn't it?! Nice, normal men to spend time with, minus the pressure of dating.

    And I think having those close guy friends will make it easier to answer any questions your son may have as he gets older, if he should happen to wake up when you have actual dates over. It's not as taboo if he's used to mom having male friends.

    Posted 3 years ago #

  10. mommamaureen
    Member

    Thanks for the reassurance! Yes I'm really lucky to have great guy friends although I have noticed that my friendships with men have taken a nose dive since I had G. Also I will be able to explain away men that might happen to be in the house after bedtime because right now I live with my brother and he has friends over a lot so I can always just tell G they're his friends. I'd hate to lie but...sometimes it's better then the alternative.

    Posted 3 years ago #

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