Hi - I am a new single mom (husband left in Sept 2011). I have a 14 month old son. The visitation schedule has been supervised visits... to unsupervised for a day for 8 hrs... and as of March 1 - every other weekend overnights.
I have been my son's primary caregiver and have never spent the night away from him. It is tearing me apart to think of my son staying the weekend - and every other weekend - with my soon to be ex husband. My husband did not bond well with my son while he was with us and developed his own PPD. Now since he left - and with his weekend day visit - he's constantly in my son's face with toys. My son still wakes in the night and I am in the process of weaning (hoping this will be easier for when he starts the overnights).
I guess I am fearing that he will be crying for me, that my husband will let him 'cry it out,' get hurt etc.
Can someone please provide some motivation or advice on how to deal with this? I feel bad too because my son is so innocent and now he has to do this the rest of his life. He didn't ask for this... I didn't ask for this. I would rather my husband just move away and leave us alone.
Thanks.
